Today, I just wanted to post about some of the things people might say or ask to adopting parents that are really inappropriate. (My answers to those questions are in "blue".)
Top things NOT to ask or say are:
How much did she/he cost? ( Well, that one doesn't even need to be acknowledged! How narrow-minded and ignorant can someone be to ask such a question? Adopted children aren't items you buy at the neighborhood mall or supermarket, they are born in our hearts.
We are the "Lucky ones! " )
There are so many children in America that need homes. Why didn't you adopt from here? ("Because China is where our daughter is from, but I'm so glad that you are considering it.")
Her mother must be Chinese. ("Duh! You think?, well if not, maybe her father was huh?")
Her father must be Chinese. ( "Well, I'm not sure, it was really dark that night and I didn't get a good look at him!")
The NUMBER 1 thing that you should absolutely, positively NEVER say is:
"I know someone who adopted and they got pregnant. That is probably going to happen to you too." (" WELL THANK YOU DEAR ABBY!! WHAT IN THE UNIVERSE MADE YOU SAY THAT!! THAT'S NOT A REASON WE CHOSE TO ADOPT AND IT'S NOT POSSIBLE !!!! ")
This is the story of our Journey to Nanning,China to bring our beautiful daughter Katherine home.
